I think I’ve mentioned this before in the blog but, how many times do we make our happiness solely depend on our expectations?
Probably more often than we could even realize.
I remember when Valentine’s day was a full day of expectations for me. I dreamed with the chocolates, the flowers and all of that romantic stuff. Sometimes I got them but sometimes I didn’t. And when that happened, I just pretended it was OK when I was actually very disappointed.
Somehow, expectations can be like conditions –> “I’m happy if I get what I’m expecting.” But attaching on happiness to conditions can be a completely insane way to live your life.
With time, I learned that I was not only doing this in Valentine’s day but in many other aspects of my life. The solution I found was to let my expectations go. It takes a little bit of effort to do so (specially if you tend to control everything like I do), but once you achieve it you’ll be more happier.
Having no expectations makes you happier because it lets you focus on the things you’re not expecting to get. Having no expectations makes you happier because you’ll actually get surprised with surprises.
Once I realized about all of this, I started having better Valentine days.
Now, in this Valentine’s Day I really wish you to celebrate real love. Unconditional Love. The kind of love that has no expectations and is just made to give. Give something to your loved one, your family, friends, and whoever you feel like.
Happy Valentine’s day!